The Burb Dad
After retiring from the military in 2010, I decided to pursue a career in writing which meant I could work from home. It also meant, since I could make my own hours, that I was free from the limitations of being chained to a corporate desk. So, I jumped into the lives of my kids, or better said, I cannon-balled into their lives. It has been wonderful and I've been a presence in their lives, something I did not have as a kid growing up in South Florida.
What I have discovered in my almost 17 years as a dad is that some parents are insane, hyper-involved and overbearing and others are at the other end of the spectrum, aloof and distant. Somewhere in between those polar markings is where I' try to parent. In both cases the child-rearing styles are reflected in the behavior of their kids. I always say you can tell what is and isn't happening at home by the way a kid behaves. Mostly though I have found that while the stands might have one or two psycho dads who are yelling at the refs or at their kids, and there are overactive parents advocating for their kids in every part of their kids' lives, the majority of parents are trying their best to raise good people.
Are they screwing up in the process? Maybe. I know I am. That's the point of this blog. I don't know it all. The only thing I know for sure about parenting is that no matter what, you have to let your kids know that you love them and that you're in their corner with a sponge and bucket.
What qualifies me to write about fatherhood? Well, I have had relationships with three things in my life. The first was the U.S. military where I served for 26 years. The second is my marriage to my wife, Rosie, which has spanned more than 20 years and lastly, I have been a father for almost 17 years. Sure, I've studied leadership as part of my professional military education as an officer and I've held plenty of leadership roles in the service. I even studied leadership/coaching as a doctoral student. But what best qualifies me to talk about fatherhood and parenting is experience, dirty boot time, as we used to call it in the ranks.
I hope this blog can be a place that you can visit and get reaffirmation that fatherhood is critical in the lives of our kids. I also hope that I can bring a smile to your face as you read about my adventures in the suburbs as I come to terms with who I am: A father with a writing problem.
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